Disclaimer: This is a sensitive topic, for all those who care. If you don't care, read on. If there's anything in here you find untrue or obnoxious, write me a comment and bear in mind that this is my take on things. This is my writing place and well, I'll write about whatever I want, however I want.

Okay... I went to the doctor's today for my physical for the track team. And we had an interesting conversation which he told me to think about, write down, and tell him back about it. The main gist was why people, or people I'd seriously talked to, didn't seem to want to get into a relationship with anyone... I hav a lot of thoughts on this topic, so I'm pretty sure I'll be adding to it later, but... here goes for now. Added to that, the part he actually wanted me to write down, was all about boyfriends, from a girlfriends perspective. What he(as in general bfs..., you know, like I'm real experienced with this...) was like before, what happened, what he's like now, and why. Did I change him or did I jsut gloss over his BS before? *shrugs*

So... First topic. Why don't poeple want to get into serious relationships with people, or relationships at all.

Well, my take on this, and the reason why, as Linds puts it so aptly, I'm, "not willing to put the effort into 'getting' a guy," is because, in most cases, it takes a while for people to get over and be even on speaking terms with the people they went out with... of course, this all depends on how deeply you felt for this person. If you didn't care at all, well, duh, you'll be over them in no time. If, you actually felt anyhting for them, then you must understand that it may take a while for you to get over them in the romantic sense. So... Why you wouldn't want ot get involved with someone you cared for, if because after you broke up, and you definitely would, whether it was 6 months before you go to college or when you go to college, it takes a while to get over them and actually become even speaking civilly (spelling?) to each other. Now, I know that one of my main reasons for not really looking for a relationship besides friends, is because, well, If I liekd them enough as a person, to go out with them, and even think they were worht my time and effort, then why would i want to go to college not speaking to this person, not knowing when I'd see them next? *shakes head* No way in hell could you make me do that. And hoenstly, on this topic, I'd like to hear more from anyone out there who actually reads this and wants to fill me in on their reasons. Email me at Sneakers012@hotmail.com or comment, or get me on AIM. The same for anyone who wants to comment on anyhting below.

On the second topic, Before, during and after relationships. Dont' ask me how/why we got into this convo, I'm really not sure.

I do think that people gloss over their chosen bf/gf's character flaws/BS before they go out wiht them, and even during, and are all-too-aware of them afterward, when the flaw/BS, which had never been directed before at them, was suddenly given full-blast. Again, I think this treatment is only when they both care about the other. Think about it, whether you hate or love someone, you still care for them in some way, whether it be negative or positive. The only way you ignore someone and occasionally give them a comment, is if you don't care. if you care at all, you have a reaction. (PS... This leaves out the completely annoying person who aggravates the other person to no end, thereby causing a reaction.)

So anyway... that's my take on things. Luv ya, leave it.